You have to be true to yourself. Strong enough to be true to yourself. Brave enough to be strong enough to be true to yourself. Healthy enough to be brave enough to be strong enough to shape yourself from what you actually are.
Rule of 7 in research. You can find out anything if you are willing to go seven levels. If the first source you ask doesn’t know, ask them who you should ask next, and so on down the line. If you are willing to go to the 7th source, you’ll almost always get your answer.